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Understanding Human Behaviour-The Skill that impacts Life & Business!

In our daily lives, we come across various individuals. Therefore, regardless of the stage we are in, it is vital to comprehend human behavior and learn how to adapt our mindset accordingly.

In our personal life, whether we are students or professionals, our daily interactions revolve around engaging with teachers, friends, family members, and fellow colleagues. This means that our lives are filled with constant human interaction, making it an integral part of our daily routines.

So, life is truly centered around human connections and the pursuit of human ventures, particularly as an entrepreneur.

Let’s embark on a profound exploration! Social Animals: We, as human beings, are inherently social creatures. Therefore, comprehending the thoughts, emotions, and feelings of others holds immense significance, lest we misinterpret them and consequently experience unhappiness. It is our innate desire to be respected and loved within our own network.

**Understanding the Behaviour:** The first language to understand others is words. As we evolve, we comprehend others through structured statements in both writing and speaking, all constructed with words. The second language combines gestures, behavior, and body language. Our face, eyes, and smile convey genuine emotions, while our voice reflects fear and excitement. Although facial expressions can sometimes be deceptive, the voice cannot be concealed. In modern times, even in texts and emails, we can perceive the sender’s excitement. What’s more intriguing is that when we chat with someone, emotions are spontaneously released from both sides. **Relationship to Time:** The way someone acts in any situation, whether they respond immediately, delay or procrastinate, reveals their personality.

Knowing your own Behaviour: Behaviour is either externally or internally generated. Behavior refers to our own motivation & capacity whereas capacity refers to our ability to enact a particular behavior that determines whether our innate strengths & environment we are in can allow the behavior we want to portray. On the other hand, motivation relates to our intentions & the amount of effort we want to portray. So, both motivation & capacity are required to portray our behavior. Ex: participating in a Marathon depends on physical fitness & your desire to push through the race.

Relation between Behaviour & Action: The combination of Thoughts, Emotions, and Feelings is the power of you that comes from inside. Once you manage them effectively you can manage the goals you have in your life, be it getting admission to the premier B School in the world or becoming a Unicorn.

Once you have control over your mind, you can influence your pattern of taking better decisions & improve the quality of your Life & have an enhanced probability to achieve your goals.

The Thinking System: Autopilot & the Intentional system of thinking. The autopilot is run mainly by your intuitions & emotions. It depends on the cognitive processes that happen in the amygdala which help us to take quick decisions like fight or flight in life & death situations. This is also our automated system. In our life there are not so many life & death situations, so the autopilot system captures those small stresses & compounds them to make a well-defined stressful life leading to wrong, long & predictable systematic patterns. Ex: Your body will always seek comfort & would not love to wake up early. Comfort discourages growth.

On the other hand, the intentional system is driven by rational thinking & its processes are conducted in the prefrontal cortex of the brain. This deals with all complex thinking & learning new behavioral patterns.

An autonomic system doesn’t require any conscious effort, but an intentional system definitely requires conscious hard & consistent efforts.

Recognizing Patterns: As you grow up we understand the mix of both autopilot & intentional systems. Ex: When you want to make any important decision, coming out of your comfort zone is most important & that continuous pattern will lead to success & prosperity.  

Neuroplasticity: In simple terms meaning rewiring your brain. When you are listening or doing something very challenging, within the brain some structural changes happen & they become permanent pathways. The permanent pathway becomes your second nature. So, now the new behavior becomes your good habit after some consistent repetitions. With repeated actions, the old neuron pathway (message gets transmitted to our brain & then to other parts of our body through nerve cells or neurons) will get replaced by the new constructive neuron pathway. That’s how we come out of our comfort zone & challenge our status quo.

We can change ourselves if we rewire ourselves by reinforcing new behavior repeatedly & with full intensity to replace the old negative pathway with the new constructive pathway. That’s how we not only survive but can also thrive in this fast-changing world & bring novelty to society.

We should label ourselves as positive change agents & also label others the same by sharing our positive energy to make them tread the same path.

Changing Pattern: First, we must assess the old behaviors that we want to change, second we must make a conscious choice to reinforce repeatedly the new choices over the old ones to fit them into solutions, rather than as problems.

When you change your thoughts, emotions & behaviors you can make a change in your performance that will put you in the driving seat of your Life & your Business. End of the day you are the architect of your own identity, the person that you want to become.

I tried to illustrate the dense neuroscience in my own language so that we can understand the science behind the popular saying “coming out of your comfort zone”. We must put our all efforts to be a changed person whether we are a student, professionals, housewives, entrepreneurs, or any character/ multiple characters we are playing in LIFE to put our best on the table.

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  1. Srabanti Paul Avatar

    Nice to learn…will try to adopt a new change in me.

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    1. Raja Paul Avatar

      Thanks Srabanti!

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  2. Dr. Gouri Kumra Avatar

    Excellent article . While reading this article I had the sliced 🧅 onion floating in my VISUAL CORTEX .
    Y ?
    Core of the onion is an inverted u stem or bulb 💡. It is connected to the root . This stem and root is the CNs . ( Central nervous system ). Each neuron has a dendritic branching with a long axon . When we motivate a change the axon moves in search of similar link this is called synaptic connection . A network of brain cells encourage the change . A new neural pathway . With each new connection the telomere breaks . This results in aging . The layers of onion which cover the bulb represent knowledge , wisdom , transformation , all leading to the process of individuation .
    If we meditate on this onion and circumambulation results we would sharpen .

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    1. Raja Paul Avatar

      Thanks for your appreciation!! I really liked the analogy of onion & what a way to illustrate the complex neural pathway leading to the intent of my article…thank you so much Ma’am to add on to my endeavour through your valuable comment.🙏🙏

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      1. Dr. Gouri Kumra Avatar

        It is a synaptic connection . Making of collective consciousness

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  3. Dr. Gouri Kumra Avatar

    Participation mystique Jung considered it a brilliant intuition. A mysterious bond unites ‘beneath’ and ‘above’, the closest and the furthest, the divinity, the animals and the tribe. In this primitive awareness all objects are considered to be alive. The psychic spheres of the inner and outer
    world permeate each other to such a degree that it is impossible to decide what belongs to whom. There is a minimum of self-consciousness and a maximum of attachment to the object.They are unable to distance themselves in an intellectual way.

    Jung defines Participation mystique as : “It denotes a peculiar kind of psychological connection with objects, and consists in the fact that the subject cannot clearly distinguish himself from the object but is bound to it by a direct relationship which amounts to partial identity. This identity results from an a priori oneness of subject and object.”

    In participation mystique, the subject and object are fused. The subject projects undigested and unformed proto-mythemes onto the object and the world of objects.

    Whether a person is aware of it or not, he simply exists as a participating being. In a state of participation mystique, we are fused with the object world. We are not able to see the objects as they truly are; they are colored by our perceptions. Jung distinguished two forms of participation mystique: a healthy and an unhealthy one.

    It is healthy for a person to realise that he is an intrinsic part of reality. Jung continually emphasised that the participation mystique wherein a human being is born forms the unconscious dimension in which all individuals are both without boundaries and identical. There is unity in multiplicity, there is the one human being in all. But something detrimental takes place when, at an adult age, this participation mystique slows down a healthy process of individuation and
    a person misses out on important aspects of his individual independence. Jung noticed this again and again in the people around him.

    According to Jung, many so called civilised people have no clue how much they are controlled by unconscious cultural motives (which are different to the drives of the collective unconscious). Their entire life, they stay caught in unhealthy forms of ‘participation’.

    What is of crucial importance within the first phase of our life – an almost complete (unconscious) symbiosis between mother and child – becomes a serious handicap at a later age. The baby, who is unaware where it ‘ends’ and where its mother ‘begins’, has an authentic experience of a ‘shared identity’. But as an adult, a person should be detached from this experience, be liberated. Many adults, however, still belong to their family in the same way as a primitive person belongs to his tribe, but they are unaware of this.

    Jung called attention to the fact that people can lose their own identity in church and societal organisations, which is all but positive. One can also get completely lost in the marital bond. “We are still in a primitive state of participation mystique in the relation between the sexes; we have not discovered that only different things can enter in relationship.”

    Jung argued that during his individuation process a person should follow a path which not only unconsciously begins in participation mystique, but which, after having gone through all kinds of phases, should also end there. But this time with full consciousness.

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    1. Raja Paul Avatar

      Thank you Ma’am for sharing your dense thoughts on the different phases of Life.

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  4. Supriyo Neogi Avatar

    Practical facts…

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  5. priyabratadas1980 Avatar

    Excellent article….. Certain thing nees to know. Point: Changing pattern of Behavior, here I have a different opinion…..All people have an ideal image because the ideal image is a culmination of all of our VABES( Values, Assumptions, Beliefs and Expectations). Very few see their self-image on perfect tract with their ideal self. If it is so, then how to recognize behavior to change…..

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    1. Raja Paul Avatar

      Thanks Priyabrata for raising a wonderful query. My understanding is that adopting a new behaviour is a choice & not a compulsion. Ex: A woman wants to be in her good shape. So, she decides to do workout regularly & having a clean diet everyday. She starts going to gym against her mind always playing googly & telling her to remain the way she was. She cuts her junk intake though her mind will always push her to have her favourite ice cream. But a time will come when she will come out of her comfort zone & will create a new neural pathway that will push her to gym & saying no to her favourite ice cream. A structural change happens in our brain & we behave absolutely differently. This is how we shift from our bad habit to an absolutely new good habit. This is a choice!!🙂
      I hope your query has been cleared.
      Let’s learn in collaboration.

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  6. Shahid Ashraf Avatar

    Efforts have now been made to address this concern while still remaining within the word limit. The balance that the authors were aiming for is to highlight the accomplishments in both the science and the engineering

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    1. Raja Paul Avatar

      Appreciate your thought, Sahid

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  7. riya das Avatar

    Amazing writ up 👍

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